Why Not Settle?

Dating in your early 20s is fun… until it isn’t. At first, it's exciting—new crushes, new stories to share with the girls, that little boost of main-character energy you didn’t realize had been missing. And sure, it’s cute to have “a date” and a rotation, and of course a group chat to debrief everything.

It was great, right?

But then there’s the moment where you meet someone and, for the first time, that typical short-lived spark doesn’t die out. You start to get butterflies—and not the “I’m so nervous, what if he’s a murderer?” type—but the type that shows up because you feel safe, not stressed.

Somewhere along the way, the idea of “settling down” got a bad reputation. As if choosing one person to spend your days with is boring, or that it makes you miss out on the fun; it’s seen as enduring the mundane instead of choosing the calm.

It’s almost as if society wants you to stay in the never-ending cycle of constant searching, constant swiping, constant keeping it casual on purpose “just in case they get too clingy.”

And listen, there’s nothing wrong with casually dating. But people also shouldn’t be afraid to want something steady. To let their guard down and let love in. To accept “the mundane” and explore life with their one special person.

Love can be calm and exciting. It can be grounded and thrilling. It can be peaceful without being predictable.

So no—choosing to be with one person isn’t “settling.” Sometimes, it’s okay to escape the modern-day dating rollercoaster and move on from chaos being your default setting.

So… why not settle if what you’re really choosing is peace?